first comes love

After turning 40, I tried to figure out why the fuck I was having such a hard time with it.  I mean it’s just a number, right?  And it’s not like I “look” 40.  I could easily pass for 35.

I realized that I had become wrapped up in what 40 was “supposed” to be like.  I wasn’t supposed to be 40 and renting a little casita.  I wasn’t supposed to be “starting over.”  I wasn’t supposed to be in debt.  or divorced.  or having a foreclosure on my credit.  or working at a job that feels like a life a sentence.

But I had to slap myself out of it.  Because all that doesn’t mean shit!

I’m 40!  And I have found the love of my life.  And Starting Over is amazing because for once in my life I know who I am and what I need.  And my girls are happy.  And I may not be living in my “dream” home.  Or working at my ‘dream” job.  Or buy the latest Coach bag on a whim.   But I wealthy beyond my wildest dreams when it comes to what truly matters.

And sometimes?  The most unexpected thing comes when you need it most.



This Post Has 39 Comments

  1. VDog says:


    .-= VDog´s last blog ..I heart Etsy – May Flowers by @kaisermommy =-.

  2. Julie says:

    holy crap!!!!!! Congrats! Squeeeeeee!!

  3. Chibi Jeebs says:

    Congratulations! Awesome! 😀
    .-= Chibi Jeebs´s last blog ..Reading: love it or hate it? =-.

  4. Pamela says:


    Congrats Lex! I’m SOOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU!

    .-= Pamela´s last blog ..Someone needs to buy me a Nook! =-.

  5. Miss Grace says:


  6. Adrienne says:

    OMG OMG OMG! So so happy for you!
    .-= Adrienne´s last blog ..Parent’s Choice Formula =-.

  7. Nancy says:

    I’m so happy for all of you! You all deserve all the happiness in the world.

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  9. avasmommy says:


    Lex this news truly made my week. I cannot even begin to tell you how happy I am for you!!!!!!

  10. *squee* Oh my goodness, I am so happy for you! Good for you, Lex. You are an inspiration to me, my friend. You really are. Proof that the best things sometimes do come to those who wait, or who are brave enough to take the risk by letting go of something that’s not right, in hope of finding something that’s perfect. Congratulations… it’s perfect! And you deserve it!!! *hugs*
    .-= Last Girl Standing´s last blog ..Good Advice involving a ‘Bottle’ of Beer =-.

  11. Deanna Leigh says:

    For serious, chica? Rock it, Mama! You do it soo well anyway! Hugs and congrats.

  12. Maura says:

    Holy crap! That’s freaking awesome!! Congrats to the stars, my friend. So happy for you! 🙂

  13. ::THUD::

    I am really happy for you! SO glad it’s not me, but really, really happy it’s you and that you are happy.

    You deserve it, Lex!

    .-= Tina@Send Chocolate Now´s last blog ..Symptoms of Dyslexia =-.

  14. Monica says:

    Yay!!! A baby, I’m so happy for you :).

  15. kristeneileen says:

    OH SO happy for you & your sweetie!

    What wonderful news. Redefining 40 is turning out to be very sweet in your case! xxoo

  16. Cetta says:

    WHA? I am speechless – and before coffee!

    Congratulations, my friends. I couldn’t be more happy. You’re an inspiration.

  17. briya says:

    Oh! YayYay!! I’m SOOO excited for you lady, congratulations!
    .-= briya´s last blog ..Hai. I’m an asshole. =-.

  18. WOOHOO!!!! CONGRATS!!!! So happy for you!!
    .-= Maria @BOREDmommy´s last blog ..Help me, O witty ones. =-.

  19. drlori71 says:

    .-= drlori71´s last blog ..Cutest Kids Ever =-.




    .-= Meghan (AMomTwoBoys)´s last blog ..Who Me? NO, I’M NOT STRESSED OR ANYTHING =-.

  21. Cindy Saddler says:

    Yay!! Such wonderful news. Congratulations 🙂

  22. LEX!!!!

    I’m not sure I’ve ever been as excited for someone as I am right now. Especially because I really like your fella and I think this is just SUCH a good thing.

    Big HUGE congratulations. This is tremendous news.

  23. Heather... says:

    OMG!!!! I am so happy and excited for you! This news just made my weekend!! Yaaaaaaay!! Congrats!!!

  24. Issa says:

    Omg. Omg. OMg Am thrilled for you. Yayyyyyyy!!!!!

  25. Lesley @Avalea says:

    Wooooooooow!!!! Congrats!!!!

  26. T says:

    Really glad I read this, gave me some hope for the future..

  27. Anthony says:

    Congratulations! Its funny how things work out sometimes, huh? Life is about these things that truly matter. 🙂
    .-= Anthony´s last blog ..The one where I’m in love =-.

  28. Al_Pal says:

    OMG YAY! Wow! How exciting! That is so cool.
    How neat, to have the love of your life, and to be making more love. NEAT.
    Congratulations! Hurray for you all. Blessing!
    .-= Al_Pal´s last blog ..Sensitivity: I have it. =-.

  29. Maria says:

    Congrats, lady. How amazing.
    .-= Maria´s last blog ..Love the Gulf =-.

  30. Duchess says:

    So, so, so, so, so happy for you! Of course instead of bringing you a bottle of wine in august I will be bringing sparkling cider, but small potatoes!

  31. secret agent mama says:

    Congratulations, Lex!!!! xoxoxoxox

  32. AmazingGreis says:

    Dude, I’m a little behind on my reader…YAYE!!!!!!

    Congratulations, so excited for you ALL!!!!!!

    Do you have a date yet?
    .-= AmazingGreis´s last blog ..I’m not a Princess, this ain’t a fairy tale… =-.

  33. mom2jazz says:

    Congrats lady!!! Just got around to reading this. WOOOHOOO

  34. Holy crap! Congratulations!!!!!!!
    .-= Karen Sugarpants´s last blog ..So My Very Best Friends Think I’m Crazy =-.

  35. Hip_m0m says:

    Hahaha! I’m laughing because I read your previous post first, the one where you were feeling blah at turning 40 when all along your body was forcing you to slow down to help get ready for these new little babies inside of you.

    I am truly excited for you and this new adventure. I can’t wait to follow along and hear how everything goes and see the little cuties when they finally make their first appearance.


    You make Forty look Fabulous!
    .-= Hip_m0m´s last blog ..A controversial look at breastfeeding =-.

  36. Li says:

    Congrats!!!!! I’m so very happy for you.
    And 40 is just a number!
    .-= Li´s last blog .."I Do What I Want," Right? =-.

  37. Kym says:

    Congratulations, Lex! 🙂

  38. gorillabuns says:

    what truly wonderful news!


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