If I had an abortion

If I had an abortion, you wouldn’t know by looking at me.

 If I had an Abortion

There’s no telltale sign. Abortion is a secret that women carry.


It probably would have been when I was much younger. Early college maybe. When I was unsure of myself and barely even knew who I was.


I might have gone to Planned Parenthood. Or some other clinic. Surely not my health insurance where my parents might find out.


It would have been better to visit those clinics before having to make a choice about abortion so I could get some birth control and sex education. Because at my catholic high school, we were told birth control was bad. And so was sex. But somehow it seemed like the birth control was even worse. I remember getting many conflicting messages. Would a decision to have an abortion been out of the question? I don’t know.

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Maybe I wouldn’t have known what else to do. Disappoint my family? Force my boyfriend to step up to a lifetime commitment that he wasn’t ready for either? We broke up a few times throughout our relationship and we didn’t make it for the long haul.


Maybe I wouldn’t like myself very much for having one. Or maybe I liked myself enough that I chose what was best for me at the time.  


I’m sure I would have been very ashamed. Because, that Catholic guilt is strong. I might have gone to confession. I may have gone to counseling. I may have made peace with it.


I wouldn’t have been forced to go through illegal channels for it. Or try questionable methods on my own. Because I was a young adult during a time when abortion was legal and available.


I’m a mom to four girls. What if they found themselves in such a position? I would hope that they would come to me. Of course.

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But maybe they wouldn’t. They should at the very least have a place to go for assistance. I’m talking about reproductive health resources. Not just access to abortion. Because places like Planned Parenthood provide comprehensive services. Without shame.


What if I had an abortion after a date rape? I wouldn’t be surprised if someone I know has had to face that choice. When I was a young adult, the morning after pill wasn’t even an option.


What if I had an abortion when I was older? Maybe a medical decision made with my husband and doctor, after careful consideration and reflection. What if it were a choice of saving my own life? Of course it would be heart wrenching. But shouldn’t a woman in this position be able to make the choice to live?


I was blessed to experience my pregnancies without being faced with such a difficult decision because of a life threatening issue. But I know people who did. Several women, as a matter of fact.


Maybe my younger self chose against having an abortion. Maybe I would have another child right now in my family. Or maybe I would be like many birth mothers who gave her baby to a loving family to raise as their own. Either decision would have been just as difficult.


But here’s the thing.


Women’s right to choose should not be infringed upon by politicians. Women face this complicated decision for all sorts of reasons. Medical or personal, it’s still a decision a woman makes for her own body, health, and well-being. And now politicians are trying to create new obstacles and take away access.

Bill Nye uses science to debunk anti-abortion arguments

If I had chosen an abortion, it would be my business. And also, my right. Abortion is legal. And it isn’t anyone’s business to infringe on that choice.



Crab Cakes My Family Loves

Who loves crab cakes? We do!

Crab cakes are delicious and surprisingly easy to make!

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I’ve been in the mood for some yummy crabcakes for a while. But usually, they are something I only get at restaurants. And they can be pricey at some places, for only a couple of them as an appetizer.  Plus, when you have a family of four kids and a busy schedule, the crab cake restaurants are typically reserved for special occasions. 

I happened grocery shopping at my local club super store and I saw a container of fresh blue crab. And I swear I started drooling right there. Grabbed them up and continued on my way. 

Once I got home, I thought, crab cakes, how hard could it be? 

It always seemed like it was a daunting recipe to try. But guess what? It was super easy!

First of all I scoured the internet and all of my cookbooks for all kinds of recipes and variations. And took inventory of what I actually had on hand. And I set out to make my own. 

 Basically, it’s sauteing some veggies, mixing up all the ingredients, and forming the mix into little patties. Let them chill for a half hour, add some stuff for crispiness and fry them up!

Not only was it easier than I thought, but they were delicious!

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The best part of my creation was that they were a big hit with the entire family. Even my pickiest eater gobbled hers up and declared them a winner! The twins called them the best fish sticks ever. I didn’t want to correct them, because adorableness must be treasured. But at 4 1/2 years old, I guess it’s time to teach them right. So they learned all about crabcakes. They even helped stir the mix! Did you know that when you get kids involved in cooking, they are more likely to try new things? 

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Please, give it  a try! Let me know if you do. And don’t be afraid to experiment with the mixture. As long as you have the main components, you can try all kinds of variations! 

What are some other recipes I should try? 

Delicious Crispy Crab Cakes
Serves 6
delicious crispy crabcakes loved by the whole family
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For crab cake patty base
  1. 2 tbsp butter
  2. 1 tsp chopped garlic
  3. 1/2 cup of chopped green onion
  4. 1/2 cup of chopped celery
  5. 1 lb crab meat
  6. 1/4 cup mayonnaise
  7. 1 tsp brown mustard
  8. 1/2-2 tsp hot sauce (depending on your taste)
  9. 2 eggs
  10. 1 cup panko crumbs
  11. 1 tbsp bay seasoning
  12. 1 tsp garlic salt (w/ parsley flakes)
  13. 1/3 cup Panko breadcrumbs
For crust
  1. 1 cup panko crumbs
  2. 1 tsp bay seasoning
  3. salt/pepper
  4. 2 tbsp melted butter
For cooking
  1. Coconut Oil (or your preferred cooking oil)
  1. In a large skillet saute the onions and celery until the onions become translucent.
  2. In a large bowl, mix together the onions and celery and the remaining crab cake patty ingredients. Shape into patties and set aside and chill for 30 minutes.
  3. In a shallow bowl, mix the crust ingredients together with a fork.
  4. Take each patty and dredge into the crust mix, covering each side.
  5. Heat oil in your large skillet over medium heat. When oil is hot, carefully place crab cakes, in batches, in pan and fry until browned, about 4 to 5 minutes. Carefully flip crab cakes and fry on other side until golden brown, about 4 minutes.
  1. Serve immediately with lemon wedges.
  2. An easy dipping sauce can be made with mayonnaise, dill relish, lemon juice, and hot sauce. (My kids just used ketchup).
  3. An optional variation: add a zesty flavor with chopped red bell pepper into the crab meat mix.
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Jewelry Holiday Promotion

Jewelry on my holiday wish list? 

I come from a long line of jewelry lovers. The ring on my left hand belonged to my grandma. 

There used to be a time when I would shop for pretty sparkly things on a regular basis and it was all for me!!!

A fact I had almost forgotten about. Then my critical teenager says, Mom, what do you know about fashion, you don’t even shop at the mall!

Um, excuse me! I am an excellent shopper! Since I was 14 when I went to the mall on my own with a budget and bought myself a complete back to school wardrobe. I knew how to hit the sales and come out on top!

Nowadays? Most of the items I buy are small and character themed, and NOT for me. I barely get to update my wardrobe or shoes!

And accessories? Forget about it. I wear the same jewelry practically every day, unless I’m going somewhere special. But why wait until a special occasion when there’s an awesome discount to be used!

Jewelry for the holidays

1. Sapphire And Diamond 14k White Gold Earrings

2. Amethyst With Diamond And Brown Diamond Halo 10k Rose Gold Ring

3. Women’s Sport Casual Collection Bulova Watch 

4. Silver and Cubic Zirconia Infinity Necklace 

Jewelry Discount Code 

Don Roberto’s has passed along a savings for my readers. Yes, that’s right. The Holidays will be here before you know it, so here’s some help for me and you! Shop online at Don Roberto Jewelers and use the discount code BP25FP (25% off first purchase). *Discount is only valid online and must be be entered at checkout when purchasing online.

If you’re in the Southern California area, feel free to stop by and browse for jewelry in person at a location near you. 

And, if you need it, Don Roberto’s makes it easy to get credit with them. Don Roberto Jewelers allows first time credit approvals for those who have no credit at all and gives second chances to those who may not have the best standing credit scores. 

Chances are, I’ll be doing a little shopping there soon. I’m going to say it’s for me. But I would be lying. It will be for my girls, I’m sure. Because Santa doesn’t make sparkly jewelry along with the toys. And I know this little necklace will receive raves if it winds up under my tree. 

Hello Kitty Pendant

                                                                                                        Isn’t it adorable?


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Netflix and Chill- Friday Footnotes

It’s been a Netflix kind of week. 

Friday Footnotes


I don’t know why, but it’s been quite an anxious emotional week for me. Peri-menopausal PMS is no joke. So, you know what helps me escape? A little Netflix and relaxation (and by that I mean actually chilling out not the Chill that people do. heh). I finally caught up on last season’s Reign, so I’m all set to catch up on Season 3. It’s a great show! I’ve also been re-watching Parenthood in small doses.


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Speaking of TV, I had to send the twins’ agent new headshots, since they seem to continue to grow despite my wish that they would stay little forever. I took a few photos myself until I get a chance to get some professionally done. Picmonkey is my friend. I’ve also been learning all kinds of editing tips. You can see them on my Pinterest Board for Photography. 

Sara and Ema October pic

I had to take many photos to get even a few decent pics. Do you know how hard it is to get incredibly silly active twins to look at the camera at the same time? It was much easier when they were 6 months old. 

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I’m super sad that my Dodgers season is over. It was a great run, and I was super hopeful this year that they would make it to the World Series. But then Marco reminded me that Back to the Future predicted the Cubs to win and that consoled me. But if they really do win, that will be super weird and I’ll be wanting to make my car fly and use compost for fuel. Anyway, bring on 2016 and another chance for a Dodgers champ. They are still the Best in the West, so there.

Gabi cheers on the Dodgers - Friday Footnote

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Have you read any good blogs lately? My friend Claudya wrote a very personal and touching post for Domestic Violence Awareness. Too many of my own friends and family have been affected by domestic violence and I hope that awareness and stronger laws will protect possible victims in the future. Go check out Claudya’s post.

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How was your week? Do you have Netflix? What are you bingewatching?