Join Me and Pink Out for Planned Parenthood January 17

It’s 2017 and not only is the Affordable Care Act in jeopardy, but funding for Planned Parenthood is being targeted.

Women’s health continues to be at risk by conservative government actions and we must make our voices heard!

Pink Out for Planned Parenthood January 17

Pink Out California January 17

I didn’t know much about Planned Parenthood when it counted. As a teenager, I wasn’t interested in going “that far” with a boy. I thought that was something that would wait for marriage or close to it. Boys I dated never pressured me to go further than I was ready for. I was lucky.

I went to a private Catholic high school. I learned about the sanctity of marriage and that abstinence was a rule that was easy to live by. I didn’t worry about sex or any problems that could result from being a sexually active teen. I also learned about natural family planning. Contraception was to be avoided, because conception was in God’s hands.

So, when I finally had a “serious” boyfriend in college, I had this wealth of non-knowledge at my disposal. Because the other thing I learned in high school, was that Planned Parenthood was a sinful place. And the health office at my (also Catholic) University wasn’t exactly handing out birth control. Planned Parenthood would have been at my rescue if I needed it. That is, if I knew that Planned Parenthood was about helping women, not ending lives. 

As a mom, I’ve tried to have very open conversations with my girls about their bodies and sex as they are growing up. My oldest is in high school and she talks to me about anything. However, I also let her know that there are places she can go and people she can talk to if she chooses. Planned Parenthood is available for all women, including teens.

I feel strongly that Planned Parenthood is an invaluable resource for all women and society as a whole. Women’s health shouldn’t be jeopardized because of the political agenda of the conservatives in Congress.

Planned Parenthood clinics around the country see about 2.5 million people annually. Many are lower-income, and the vast majority come not for abortions but for essential healthcare: breast examinations and cervical cancer screenings, testing and treatment for sexually transmitted diseases and infections, contraception and family planning, urinary tract infection treatments, and other primary care services. Planned Parenthood’s annual report for the year 2014 estimates that abortions represented only 3% of the care provided by the the organization. – Los Angeles Times 

OnTuesday, January 17th, Californians can join hundreds of Planned Parenthood supporters, state legislators, and actors and activists Lena Dunham and Wilson Cruz, who’ll be rallying at the State Capitol. The GOP is moving to defund Planned Parenthood and it is up to us all to protect the quality preventive and reproductive care that Planned Parenthood health centers provides.

By standing united as we “Pink Out the State Capitol,” you can send a message that #IStandWithPP and #WeWontGoBack.

RSVP HERE: http://www.ppaction.org/site/PageNavigator/ca_ppac_2017_PinkOutDay_RSVP_Page.html?_ga=1.247022916.1709372134.1484325311


If you can’t make it to Sacramento—OR—if you live elsewhere but would still like to participate, please spread the word online and off.


On Tuesday, January 17, wear pink, take a picture, tag @PPActionCA and use the hashtags #IStandWithPP & #WeWontGoBack. Say why you stand with Planned Parenthood, and why California’s legislators should, too.

 



This is 46? This can’t be right.

I haven’t been myself lately. Something is not quite right. 

 

Perimenopause can suck it. 

 
I had a birthday a few weeks ago. It was lovely. A day of celebration for Mother’s Day as well. A double celebration. Family, food and love. 
 
But underneath the smiles and hugs, I was struggling to stay afloat. It was an irrational sadness. Like someone was stepping on my happy self. 
 
None of the happy things I like to do was helping. I wasn’t even interested in them. 
 
I had no patience for anything. Downright grouchy. Susceptible to bursting in to tears or growling at someone at any moment.
 
 
I really wanted to just curl up under a blanket and read or watch movies. I wanted a cocoon, where I could hide from life for a few weeks. 
 
Of course, being who I am, that’s not exactly a wise plan of action. Or inaction. I have things to do. I don’t have time for a long term funk! 
 
Nevertheless, the funk was hanging on tight. I just couldn’t shake the cloud I was under. And then to kick things up a notch, my anxiety decided to climb aboard. It was a party for my emotional dysfunctions. 
 
I was holding on to gratitude like a life-raft. Just focus on the good things and keep going, Lex. 
 
I thought maybe I need to go to counseling. I was getting annoyed with myself. 
 
And then. 
 
Finally I emerged from the drowning despair. 
 
I realized the culprit in this puzzle. 
 
 
 
 

Hormones. 

 
My god, how long is this going to last? As if the hot flashes aren’t bad enough?
 
As if living through years of monthly cramps, headaches, dealing with periods, pregnancy, and postpartum aren’t bad enough for us women? This is quite the bitter cherry on top. 
 
Well, at least I know I’m not going crazy. 
 
But oh wait, it’s starting all over again. Here come the hormones. 
 
And the grouch. 
 
Hormonal Lex

Back Away Slowly

 
Please tell me I’m not crazy. This is a real thing right? What can I do besides just smile through it and hope for the best? 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 


If I had an abortion

If I had an abortion, you wouldn’t know by looking at me.

 If I had an Abortion

There’s no telltale sign. Abortion is a secret that women carry.

 

It probably would have been when I was much younger. Early college maybe. When I was unsure of myself and barely even knew who I was.

 

I might have gone to Planned Parenthood. Or some other clinic. Surely not my health insurance where my parents might find out.

 

It would have been better to visit those clinics before having to make a choice about abortion so I could get some birth control and sex education. Because at my catholic high school, we were told birth control was bad. And so was sex. But somehow it seemed like the birth control was even worse. I remember getting many conflicting messages. Would a decision to have an abortion been out of the question? I don’t know.

 Positive Test

Maybe I wouldn’t have known what else to do. Disappoint my family? Force my boyfriend to step up to a lifetime commitment that he wasn’t ready for either? We broke up a few times throughout our relationship and we didn’t make it for the long haul.

 

Maybe I wouldn’t like myself very much for having one. Or maybe I liked myself enough that I chose what was best for me at the time.  

 

I’m sure I would have been very ashamed. Because, that Catholic guilt is strong. I might have gone to confession. I may have gone to counseling. I may have made peace with it.

 

I wouldn’t have been forced to go through illegal channels for it. Or try questionable methods on my own. Because I was a young adult during a time when abortion was legal and available.

 

I’m a mom to four girls. What if they found themselves in such a position? I would hope that they would come to me. Of course.

Stand With Planned Parenthood

But maybe they wouldn’t. They should at the very least have a place to go for assistance. I’m talking about reproductive health resources. Not just access to abortion. Because places like Planned Parenthood provide comprehensive services. Without shame.

 

What if I had an abortion after a date rape? I wouldn’t be surprised if someone I know has had to face that choice. When I was a young adult, the morning after pill wasn’t even an option.

 

What if I had an abortion when I was older? Maybe a medical decision made with my husband and doctor, after careful consideration and reflection. What if it were a choice of saving my own life? Of course it would be heart wrenching. But shouldn’t a woman in this position be able to make the choice to live?

 

I was blessed to experience my pregnancies without being faced with such a difficult decision because of a life threatening issue. But I know people who did. Several women, as a matter of fact.

 

Maybe my younger self chose against having an abortion. Maybe I would have another child right now in my family. Or maybe I would be like many birth mothers who gave her baby to a loving family to raise as their own. Either decision would have been just as difficult.

 

But here’s the thing.

 

Women’s right to choose should not be infringed upon by politicians. Women face this complicated decision for all sorts of reasons. Medical or personal, it’s still a decision a woman makes for her own body, health, and well-being. And now politicians are trying to create new obstacles and take away access.

Bill Nye uses science to debunk anti-abortion arguments

If I had chosen an abortion, it would be my business. And also, my right. Abortion is legal. And it isn’t anyone’s business to infringe on that choice.

 

 



Crab Cakes My Family Loves

Who loves crab cakes? We do!

Crab cakes are delicious and surprisingly easy to make!

Crab Cakes by La Primera

 

I’ve been in the mood for some yummy crabcakes for a while. But usually, they are something I only get at restaurants. And they can be pricey at some places, for only a couple of them as an appetizer.  Plus, when you have a family of four kids and a busy schedule, the crab cake restaurants are typically reserved for special occasions. 

I happened grocery shopping at my local club super store and I saw a container of fresh blue crab. And I swear I started drooling right there. Grabbed them up and continued on my way. 

Once I got home, I thought, crab cakes, how hard could it be? 

It always seemed like it was a daunting recipe to try. But guess what? It was super easy!

First of all I scoured the internet and all of my cookbooks for all kinds of recipes and variations. And took inventory of what I actually had on hand. And I set out to make my own. 

 Basically, it’s sauteing some veggies, mixing up all the ingredients, and forming the mix into little patties. Let them chill for a half hour, add some stuff for crispiness and fry them up!

Not only was it easier than I thought, but they were delicious!


Crab Cakes

 

 

The best part of my creation was that they were a big hit with the entire family. Even my pickiest eater gobbled hers up and declared them a winner! The twins called them the best fish sticks ever. I didn’t want to correct them, because adorableness must be treasured. But at 4 1/2 years old, I guess it’s time to teach them right. So they learned all about crabcakes. They even helped stir the mix! Did you know that when you get kids involved in cooking, they are more likely to try new things? 

Crab Cakes by La Primera

 

Please, give it  a try! Let me know if you do. And don’t be afraid to experiment with the mixture. As long as you have the main components, you can try all kinds of variations! 

What are some other recipes I should try? 

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